It's apparently the thing to do. :\
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Edited: Okay now the link works. I'm also frustrated because I tried to take comment moderation off. I like getting emails that I've got comments and that's not happening any more. But - I'm starting a new job soon and I don't want my friends to feel ignored, but I don't have any idea that comments are being left, so.....
I'm putting comment moderation back on - but now strange word verification, just an email to me that you've commented. That way I can reply and build that relationship. Thanks for understanding. g